Take the Hitachi Magic Wand for example. Designed as a massager used to alleviate sore muscles and speed recovery, “the HV250R is the legendary, super-powerful electric massager with the soft, flexible head. If this one doesn’t provide enough stimulation, nothing will…”.

With a write up like that, are you surprised to learn that the Hitachi Magic Wand is secretly heralded as the big daddy of vibrating sex toys?

With 20 watts of vibrating power delivering 5000-6000 rpms with two speeds, this “massager” can only be objectified as the most powerful vibrating superpower known to woman.

Oh Hitachi…how I love thee.

Compared to conventional vibrators (at least any I know), not only is the Hitachi Magic Wand bigger, faster and stronger, it’s also stealthy. Like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, it hides in plain site. Because it’s a massager (not a vibrator you dirty perv), it has no shame. It doesn’t ship in a brown bag. It doesn’t hide in a tickle trunk. It demands no excuses. And it can be picked up at Walmart for under $50.

It can single handedly produce mind blowing orgasms again and again and again and again and again and again and…(sorry, I digress). But beware. The Hitachi Magic Wand can also be used for evil and should only be purchased after reading the fine print:

The Hitachi Magic Wand may cause you to spasm uncontrollably…more than once. You may be prone to shouting unexpected obscenities and screaming which could piss off your neighbors. You may lose all desire to leave your house. If you’re single, you may never date again. If you’re married, your partner may experience feelings of inadequacy if device is used alone. Prolonged use may cause your naughty bits to become unbearably sensitive after too many orgasms and as such, The Hitachi Magic Wand is not recommended for use as a medieval torture device. Use sparingly and with caution…

When it comes to the topic of sex, we’re like lambs to the slaughter.  We do and say what we’re programmed by society to do; just as our predecessors did in the Victorian Era.  Imagine…

During the 19th century, it was believed that discharging semen could shorten your life.

It was considered indelicate to offer a lady a “leg of chicken” for fear that you would give over to your urges and pounce over the dinner table to copulate – obscene!

Table and piano legs were to be covered so as not to invoke sexual urges.

Parents went to great lengths to protect the health of their sons by fitting them with locked penis cages and other devices that made erections too painful to endure.

William Hammond, U.S. Surgeon General, said that nine tenths of the time decent women had no pleasure from intercourse.

And God forbid you have sex for pleasure!  Based on the highly influential workings of Kraft-Ebing (publisher of “Psychopathia Sexualis”), sex for pleasure that does not induce pregnancy is a perversion of biology and God’s will.   (rape good…masturbation bad).

Today, these ideals seem absurd, unbelievable, and perhaps even as mythical as the theory that “the world is flat”.

But in the 19th century, scientific fact was not available to support these ideas.  Instead, they were shaped by the popular opinions of scholars, doctors, psychologists, religious leaders and other influencers and society embraced them unwaveringly.

“When the society says it’s good to have sex then it’s psychologically sick not to, and when the society says it’s bad to have sex then it’s psychologically sick to [have sex].  William A. Henkin

150 years may have passed, and although our ideals have changed, our thought process is still the same – when it comes to sex, we still judge, we still fear, we still feel guilt and we are still driven by societal norms based on opinions of modern day influencers.

Sadly, we are still repressed.

Maybe one day, we will receive all the scientific proof that we need to support the concept that “sex is good” just as “the world is round”.

And only then, “society” will transform into free thinking individuals that can explore sex safely, not judge and have fun without guilt!

You’ll learn how to design your open relationship, strategies for survival, how to overcome common challenges, tips for coping with jealousy and and other itense feelings, and you’ll read about the experiences of other couples along the way.

Although this book is not a step by step how to guide, it will give you great insight into the bigger picture complete with lots of “aha” moments and “ohhh…that makes sense” realizations.  By the time you’re done this book, you’ll be armed with all the terminology and insight you need to map out your journey.  You’ll have a better understanding of what makes an open relationship work, what doesn’t and potential pitfalls to avoid.  But of course, given the nature of the content, this book is best read together.

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So let’s get right to the point. Compared to other vibrating eggs, The Boss is a bit of a fat head at a comfortable 4 ¼” around by 3 ¼” long. It’s made of hypoallergenic ABS plastic that is velvety to the touch making it less invasive on first impact. It is also
non-porous and phthalate-free, lubricant friendly, and easy to clean with anti-bacterial soap.

The WIRELESS remote is one of the best I’ve seen with TEN sweet settings that will keep you “guessing and waiting for your next ‘command’”. Your partner on the other hand, will know exactly what speed it’s at with one quick check of the easy to read LED digital display.

But best of all, our own ‘bedroom’ tests prove that you can fire up the engine and switch gears from over 30 feet away! Plus, it’s quiet and discrete making it the perfect toy for a naughty night on the town or my “good vibrations” fantasy.

Enjoy the ride!

Eve’s rating:

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I would like to hope that most would take the opportunity to get educated, or simply bow out gracefully. But this particular “Jack” exploded and called her every name in the book from slut to whore to everything in between. When I heard about his simple minded response, I was disgusted.

It’s no wonder that so many people are ashamed to talk about and deal with this issue. It’s no wonder that so many choose to simply ignore their situation and continue to contribute to the spread of herpes. It’s a wonder that my friend doesn’t just keep her mouth shut and take her chances in the future.

My friend should be commended! She is incredibly brave and is blazing the trail in open sexual communication. Herpes is one of many STIs out there and people need to talk about the facts in order to stop the spread of this disease and others like it.

Facts about Herpes
• At least one in four Americans will contract an STD at some point in their lives.
• One in five Americans has genital herpes (at least 80% are not aware they have it)
• Many people who have genital herpes are unaware that they have the virus because they have no symptoms, mild symptoms, or mistake the symptoms for other conditions such as jock itch, yeast infections, razor burn or allergic reactions to detergents.
• Genital herpes can be transmitted during vaginal, anal or oral sex even if the infected person has no open sores or any other symptoms of infection.
• Condom use reduces the risk of getting genital herpes and other STIs. However, when using a condom, remember that the exposed areas of skin are still unprotected. To prevent spread of the virus during oral sex use a condom on the penis and a condom cut lengthwise or a dental dam over the female genital area

I don’t know why I continue to be surprised at how ignorant and judgmental people can be when it comes to sexuality and sexual health. Stop judging and get educated. When it comes to sex, ignorance is only bliss until that morning you wake up with open sores on your naughty bits.

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You’re not alone!

He asked if they were willing to try it out. They were both very much in favor of it. The doctor set the knob to 10% for starters, explaining that even 10% was probably more pain than the father had ever experienced before. But as the labor pains progressed, the husband felt fine. So, he asked the doctor to go ahead and bump it up a notch. The doctor then adjusted the machine to 20% pain transfer and the husband was still feeling fine. The doctor checked the husbands blood pressure and pulse and was amazed at how well he was doing. At this, they decided to try for 50%. The husband continued to feel quite well.

Since it was obviously helping out his wife considerably, he encouraged the doctor to transfer ALL the pain to him. The wife delivered a healthy baby with virtually no pain. She and her husband were ecstatic.

When they got home, they found the mailman dead on their porch.

Confused

Dear confused:

The first thing I want to know when people ask me if I think they’re ready (context swinging) is “ready for what exactly?”. Too many couples make the assumption that venturing into the world of swinging means throwing their keys into the “orgy” bowl and putting the pedal to the metal…0 to 60 in one fowl swoop. They take a renegade “Thelma and Louise” approach, driving recklessly along a desolate stretch of highway, and soon after their relationship takes a header into the canyon.

Unbeknownst to many, there is a scenic route with a lot of amazing, satisfying, fun and adventurous pit stops along the way. Slow down. Smell the roses. Take in the sights. In other words, enjoy the ride and don’t be in such a hurry to arrive at the “final destination”.

Start by printing off the Sugar, Spice and Sex Advice “swinger’s checklist” and comparing fantasies with your partner. Pick one or two of the adventures that scored five (5) for both of you and take them for a test drive. Assess (aka COMMUNICATE). Tweak and repeat. Taking this approach means you don’t have to be “ready” to jump into the deep end of swinging. You can take baby steps to get there and evaluate along the way. And when the time is right, not only will you know you’re ready, but you’ll also be far better equipped to consider and cope with any challenges you face along the way including issues of jealousy and insecurities.

As for whether only “strange” people do these things, according to the Great Canadian Sex Survey, over 30% of Canadians believe that it is ok to have sexual encounters with people other than their partner as long as they have consent. So, in theory, three out of every 10 people you know may actually be swingers, or swingers at heart. But alas, does that mean 30% of Canadians are “strange”? Perhaps. But that’s a story for another day.

And finally, if you want to learn about real people and their experiences on sexuality, and swinging, do a search for swingers in your local region. Join a swingers dating site/social networking community or even a swingers club. You may just be pleasantly surprised that many of the members are just like you and some of the more experienced members will be more than happy to share their experiences and offer a helping hand along the way.

Vajazzle is the art of blinging out your vajayjay with bedazzling jewels.  It’s the latest trend hitting the celebrity waves…well actually, lack there of considering all the “waves” are removed first.     It’s a simple procedure that involves first waxing all hair from the pubic area, and then applying swarovsky crystals with a strong adhesive that’s invisible to the naked eye.  According to Jennifer Love Hewitt, she described this bizarre new trend saying “it looks like a disco ball down there”.

For the play by play, check out this great article by “The Luxury Spot” with Pictures included.

So now that I know what it is, this begs the question…will I Vajazzle?

Hell yeah!  Anything that makes a woman feel pretty, feminine and sexy is a good thing in my books.  It adds self confidence which helps turn up the heat in the bedroom and beyond.  And in my world, it makes for great conversation .

At under $100 it’s the perfect gift to self or for friends on special occasions and makes for great bling on your next adult only/nudist vacation.  If you’re looking for a place in Vancouver to Vajazzle, check out Sugarbox.

Have fun and live life.  Vajazzling is definitely one for the bucket list.

The Olympics create the perfect storm for sex: young, fit, attractive athletes looking for a good time after months and years of preparation for the big event, all put together in one place for two weeks.

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Disrespectful single guys – Hedo II openly invites single gentlemen which I don’t have a problem with…but to the guys in the hot tub trying to capitalize on the after party crowd by sticking their fingers into places they don’t belong…BACK OFF!  Not only do you end up ticking a lot of people off, but you may also get popped (which DID happen at least once that I know about during my visit).  On top of that, you give the resort a bad wrap which may just force them to reconsider their “single male” rule.  Show some class and charm and I guarantee you’ll get a lot further with the ladies.  And to those single guys that continue to be charming and respectful, we thank you and appreciate what you bring to the “Lifestyle”.

Hedonism II…the resort – Sadly, I feel that Hedo II leaves much to be desired.  For the price point, and compared to my experience at other “Adult only” resorts such as Hedo III and Desires, I find the rooms to be very basic, the food bland, and sorely lacking in healthier choices like fresh fruits and veggies and the customer service is nothing short of disasterous.  When I’m on vacation, I at least expect the staff to smile and be pleasant…it’s the hospitality industry after all.  But unfortunately, the saying “don’t worry, be happy maan” didn’t’ hasn’t made its way into the resort or even as far as the front desk.

But to be fair, a few exceptions did catch my eye and are definitely notable.  If you appreciate a great nudist beach, this one is “the bomb” compared to the offerings at HIII and Temptations (Los Cabos) and may just make your trip to HII worthwhile if this is something you cherish.  In addition, the entertainment team does a great job at creating vibe and energy.  They definitely bring the party and should be a consideration if you’re traveling solo or with a very small group.  And finally, the staff at the Karaoke bar of all places is phenomenal.  On our last night, we were treated to an amazing operatic performance by one of the entertainers.  His voice is quite literally AWESOME and I know I’ll be hard pressed to hear a voice so beautiful again.  Somebody should sign him.  He’s a gem (sorry I can’t remember his name as I was so taken back by the voice).

One last thing…from the feedback we received, Hedo II has a reputation of having an older crowd on average than Hedo III.  If crowd is important to you, be sure to familiarize yourself with what groups will be going at the same time to ensure the best synergies for you.

***The Scorecard***
Taking a page out of the book of trip advisor, I give this resort an overall rating of II when compared to Temptations (Los Cabos) or Hedo III.

Excellent ***** | Very Good **** | Average *** | Poor ** | Terrible *

Temptations (Los Cabos) Hedo II Hedo III
Resort rating (on trip advisor)    ****      ***               ***.5
Avg. Price Yr Round                       $376    $420/nt    $380/nt
Service                                                  ****      *                    ***
Rooms                                                   ****      **                  ****
Amenities                                            *****    *****           *****
Food                                                      ****       **                  ****
Entertainment                                   ***         ***                ***
Cleanliness                                          *****    ***                ****
Value for $                                          ***.5    *                      ***.5
Overall Rating                                   4/5         2/5                4/5

I hope this information is helpful to you when planning your next adult only vacation, but be remember, this is just one girls opinion, and it all comes down to personal preference.  If you can swing it, try them all and decide for yourself, but no matter where you end up, your adult only vacation is what you make it so HAVE FUN!

Happy Travels…
Eve